Each year since we introduced our collaborative list with Fair Wisconsin, our number of out and allied couples grows stronger! This year over 550 Wisconsin couples answered the call of Our Lives and Fair Wisconsin to stand up for love and fairness. Together we are sending a message—to our community,…
Interest group: Families & Youth
As the threat of a marriage amendment grew across our state, so did the voices and hearts of those it targeted. This is the story of one college student, Madison Alder Eli Judge, who heard that voice—and answered: For Barb.
Gay Straight Alliance for Safe Schools Executive Director Cindy Crane offers a comprehensive look inside the climate of our schools and how GSA programs are shaping systemic change for our entire community
When Teddi Hereid experienced discomfort from her classmates in Mount Horeb, she chose to help initiate one of the most active and enthusiastic clubs in her school. Now, as a freshmen at UW-Madison, she is offering a student’s perspective on the impact of GSAs.
Brenda Farabaugh opens up about how she first reacted when her son Patrick came out to her, and where she is at with it now.
Restaurant owner Robert von Rutenberg looks back on his return to Madison and the family business.
Rosemary Doyle, School Counselor at Northwood School in Washburn County, knows what it takes to make a difference in the day-to-day lives of LGBT youth.
Dr. Sue Gill challenges you to develop an inner template for what “family” can mean to you.
Linda S. Balisle summons memories and weaves together varied life experiences to define what makes a family.
LGBT parents are changing the world one child at a time—through their adoption of children who need a stable home and by setting examples with their intentional parenting.
Our collaborative list with Fair Wisconsin.
Writer Ja’Mel Ware is rich beyond any monetary valuation. Find out why.
Denise Matyka and Margaret McMurray found their dream come true in the form of a little girl named Maria.
For PFLAG’s Karen Baker, OutReach Community Center’s 2012 Ally of the Year, the answer was easy.
Glimpse the inner spirit of GSAFE 2012 Educator of the Year Abra Bankendorf Vigna to understand how she helps LGBTQ teens find their balance and embrace their strengths as group facilitator of Teens Like Us.
Steve Mendez is helping to change the lives of young people, one adventure at a time.
“The Place Where Everybody Knows Your Name”
Cathy Noth found strength and direction through athletics, faith, and family.
Our Lives Publisher Patrick Farabaugh shares how he learned the meaning of “home is where the heart is.”
Examining real issues of racial disparity in Dane County is tough but crucial work that everyone, LGBT progressives especially, needs to engage in.
La Follette High School teenager Charlotte Detra finds a voice and a cause through restorative justice programs at her school and with GSAFE.
UW student Roxanne Meyer navigated a rocky road to coming out, but found a place and people to call home in the Ten Percent Society.
Single mom Dana Pellebon has been navigating the public school system with and for her autistic son and offers up some tips to parents facing the same prospect with special-needs kids.
For Casey Garhart, the path to becoming a staunch ally for LGBTQ rights meant finding connection in an unusual place—her ex-husband’s new partner.
If only creating a happy blended family were as simple as throwing us all in a blender and pressing “whip.” Instead, it is something more like the art of keeping oil-and-vinegar dressing mixed, requiring constant vigilance and lots of experimentation with how hard, long, and often to shake, not to…
The TransParent support group helps parents of trans* children navigate uncharted waters.
Diverse & Resilient’s Acceptance Journeys program uses families’ stories to lay the groundwork for changing hearts and minds about LGBT lives.
GSAFE co-director Kristen Petroshius explains the difficult but important process of bringing racial justice into the mission for LGBTQ equality.
Attorney Christopher Krimmer explains the hundreds of marriage rights now available to same-sex spouses who live in Wisconsin.
Vicente Lezama has been a driving force for LGBTQ rights and acceptance at Fond du Lac High School and now hopes to continue that work in the larger Wisconsin community.
Children’s Theater of Madison’s Roseann Sheridan found acceptance and a lifelong passion among the drama geeks.
Dennis Christoffersen identifies the things that cause us stress in our day-to-day lives and offers a first step toward finding peace.
Joining Proud Theater helped Adrian Connor find his voice and a calling to help give that gift to future generations.
From his high school GSA to a path toward international and immigration justice, Camden Goetz looks for tools to make the world a better place.
Alianza Latina’s Christian Alejandro Real Merino is working to bridge a cultural divide and build up a community along the way.
James Lehman is working for better LGBTQ health care by every available means.
Danez Smith shares a taste of what Self Love can be.
Is a contract to create a family and exclude the birth mother enforceable? Linda Balisle considers a case examining this question.
What is the status of lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth in our state? Molly Herrmann talks with Anneke Mohr about the biannual 2011 Wisconsin Youth Risk Behavior Survey.
Dr. Sue Gill offers both a reflection and some helpful suggestions on recognizing and addressing family holiday stressors.
Sustainably built Badger Rock Middle School teaches students how to live in harmony with the environment and each other.
Nicholle Johnson, UW-La Crosse Pride Center peer educator, received a Seekardia Writing Award for her poem “Vinegar Kisses.” We are pleased to reprint an excerpt of it here, accompanied by an introduction by the writer.
Proud Theater Mentor Gavin Logan on art and its power to connect and transform.
Meet Drew, Taryn and Statia, three Oregon High School students learning the value of–and creating–a strong GSA presence.
GSAFE co-director Kristen Petroshius explains why LGBTQ and race issues must go hand-in-hand.
Nicole Campbell got involved in her middle school GSA to support people like her aunts and to help build a more inclusive future for all her peers.
Attorney Michele L. Perreault explains Judge Crabb’s historic ruling declaring Wisconsin’s marriage equality ban unconstitutional.
Meet the eight plaintiff couples in the ACLUís lawsuit to bring marriage equality to Wisconsin
Molly Herrmann explains why the new state health report on LGB people matters, and why surveys of the LGBTQ community are crucial to its well being.
In order to really address racial disparities in our communities, Linda Ketcham explains why it’s crucial to change the systems that enforce monochrome workplaces.
Connie North explores the work of author and teacher Helen Boyd and what it means to love a trans* person.
The Indian Mound Middle School GSA provides a safe space for students to provide support for each other and explore their own personalities.
After talking with the Madison chapter President Kay Heggestad, the value of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays becomes as real as the love a mother has for her son
When a wedding invitation arrives in his mailbox, Patrick Farabaugh is left pondering about homecomings and bridesmaids
Returning home helps Bjørn Holtan discover that Midwestern values have grown to include our family values at one of Madison’s most endeared traditions.
The road to self-acceptance is full of speed bumps and landmarks along the way. Dale Decker helps you steer clear of wrong turns.
UW Allies Program co-president Amanda Hunter opens up about the friend that helped her find the courage to step out and stand up for herself.
Meet Emily Harris, the 25 year-old owner of the Wylymar farms in Argyle
David Valdes Greenwood goes inside a same-sex marriage to candidly show the ups and downs of domestic bliss.
In the wake of the marriage amendment, Dale Decker examines how shame can prevent that “personal connection” necessary for creating change.
Meet Terry Halverson vacation planner, social mixer
Two Madison West High School seniors, Isabel Medina and Miles Walser, are attempting to push the boundaries for queer youth with a Wisconsin first: The Young Queer Sports Club.
After an Ashland student was harrassed and beaten by his classmates, he took his school to task. Tamara Packard takes a look at a legal precedent
UW-Madison student Charlie Martin found his unexpected confidence after given a kick out of the closet
Searching for LGBTQA women and men to model herself after, UW–Madison senior Amanda Hunter finds the importance of visible role models.
Photographer Lois Bielefeld recounts the long and twisting path toward self-acceptance and reconciliation with her family
GSAFE scholarship winner Quintin Smith-Bickham found a path away from despair and toward a living truth that’s helping lead the way for LGBTQ youth in Milwaukee and beyond
The untimely death of his son, followed by his wife, leaves Roy Lavery questioning love, faith and sexuality as he searches for answers outside of the Latter-Day Saints.
Zachariah Strong comes out about identity, being himself, and the strength it takes to resist labels.
For Daun Johnston, the road less traveled leads through Madison and ultimately to her own personal truth.
As the reality of creating our own families increases, so do the paths we take to get there. The Law Center for Children and Families reports on a variety of options and success stories.
Wisconsin Rainbow Families’ Vance Skinner and Brendan Barrett outline the evolution of their identities and what lead to their desire to have children.
Could gays present themselves as parents? No, said the Wisconsin Supreme Court in the early 1970s
As the GLBTQ Resource Teacher for the Madison School District, Bonnie Augusta is empowering GLBTQ students while educating faculty and staff on how to support the needs of queer youth.
As your family planning begins, Jaime Zimmerman suggests opening a custodial account to protect your future child’s financial health.
Executive Director Brian Wild reflects on the past, present, and future of Proud Theater.
After Cal Schroeder’s mother came out, all she had to do was find the courage to do it for herself.
After surviving years of declining health and a double transplant, OutReach’s Development Director Nikki Baumblatt looks back at the woman who cared for her, loved her, and stayed next to her through it as she tries to say: I Love You.
Past Fair Wisconsin Board President Dan Ross charts the path that he and his partner Charlie Squires took from meeting at a graduate school party into a shared life of activism.
Diverse and Resilient partners with OutReach on “Room to Breathe,” a solution to help us stop smoking. Amber Ault reports.
While demystifying the legal aftermath of California’s Proposition 8 vote, Tamara Packard offers a perspective on our progress.
Embracing her sexual identity later in life, an Anonymous Reader shares the discovery that helped her feel love.
John Quinlan talks with author Will Fellows about the timeless relevance that helped inspire Brokeback Mountain—the collection of narratives in Fellows’ Farm Boys.
The Salvation Army of Dane County faces serious fundraising shortfalls in the wake of bad press internationally, but the local chapter has worked directly with the LGBTQ community for years.
Kim Simes and the Family Equality Council work to lift up the voices of children in the fight for marriage equality.
Dennis Yadon tells the story of his family and the times when going back into the closet became necessary for professional and emotional survival
Caroline Werner interviews Carrie “Chaous” Riddle, a working class grandmother who has dedicated herself to volunteering on behalf of the most vulnerable among us
Madisonian Rosalee Eichstedt reflects on her relationship with her newly out bisexual dad and how it impacted her own path toward self-acceptance.
Judge Rhonda Lanford found her true self through the love of families, both blood and chosen, and a lot of hard work
Technology’s come a long way for this increasingly popular parenting option, and marriage equality might make the legal side a little simpler.
Part 2: Students Are the Focus
Attorney Michele L. Perreault examines the progress made and challenges that remain in ensuring full parental equality following the victory for marriage equality.
Linda Ketcham examines the ways in which we worry about our children, depending on where they come from.
In spite of struggles at home and at school, Tara Gregorich found the support she needed to come out and drop the mask she’d been living behind.
King of the Screwups by K.L. Going
How did our neighboring state 90 minutes west achieve marriage equality? Tamara Packard reviews their Supreme Court’s unanimous opinion.
Making the choice to come out let Adam Nelson live openly. 10 years later he looks back at how he did it.
In their own words, Fair Wisconsin Leadership Award winners Kathy Flores & Ann Kendzierski of Appleton exemplify the power we each have to make a difference.
GSAFE Educator of the Year Scott Lone of West Bend East High School approaches his role with dedication and courage.
The past 50 years in a civil rights movement through the eyes and perspective of a Madison native by Brian Powers.
How can couples best protect their rights to the house they purchase? Tamara Packard suggests specific language to use in your title.
Meet Katie Belanger. As Fair Wisconsin’s new Executive Director, she’s using her experience and resolve to fight the good fight.
Crisis by Mitchell Gold and Mindy Drucker
And sometimes, love also makes the man. Tyler Driscoll, Michele Burton-Driscoll, and their son, Johnny, show us how.
Jaime Zimmerman explains the basics and benefits of a well-designed estate plan.
Every gay person I met told me they had recognized it at a very young age—I hadn’t…
People came expecting Special Olympics, something warm and fuzzy. It was so far from that, dealing with sexuality, rape, and relationships.
Sugarless: A Novel by James Magruder
We stayed in hotels bonding with a child who we may or may not parent. We were glorified babysitters during this period, yet we already fell in love with him.
A soldier and her wife reflect on their loneliness and honor in the oppressive world of military discrimination.
Jimmy Owen reflects on the coming out, coming together journey that he and his parents have traveled.
GSAFE’s Middle School Program Assistant Monica Adams is ready to advocate for multicultural, queer youth around the state.
Diego Campoverde-Cisneros hace una reflexión cargada de emociones y vivencias personales acerca del camino hacia su aceptación.
In the second of a two-part series, Caroline Werner delves into the history and ethic of a queer activist family.
The following is an excerpt of the speech given by Kristen Petroshius when accepting the LGBTQ Advocate of the Year Award at the Outreach Banquet this past fall.
Virginia Harrison reports on a groundbreaking study of trans* and gender-nonconforming youth in Wisconsin schools and the unique challenges they face.
Attorney Christopher Krimmer lays out the legal ups and downs of legalized same-sex marriage and makes a case for why it is—and sometimes is not—right for a couple.
Trans*, Asian-American, young, and queer: Skylar Lee is blazing a trail for intersectional equality in the Madison school system and beyond.
Congressman Mark Pocan issues a rallying cry for the movement to turn its sights more thoroughly on creating safe and supportive environments for LGBTQ youth.
Attorney Christopher Krimmer explores the tricky technicalities of gay marriage and divorce and the patchwork of laws that impact couples even long after they’ve split.
Baraboo High School senior Catherine Hartup has been an active and driven member of her school’s GSA and was the lone student to speak in support of the district’s new trans-inclusive athletic policy.
After the nightmare of losing her child to suicide, Skylar Lee’s mother Joanne Lee is dedicating herself to continuing the work that her son began on behalf of the LGBTQ community that she struggled for so long to understand.
Henry Gaylord represents a new generation of LGBTQ-identified youth who refuse to be pigeonholed, one way or another, by their sexual orientation.
Attorney Christopher Krimmer explains the present status and future fight to establish a marital presumption for same-sex parents.
Jane LaFlash never intended to become a crusader for LGBTQ rights, but when her son came out to her at 16, she sprung into action to make sure he had the support needed—and ended up helping to found Madison’s chapter of PFLAG.
In the midst of tremendous loss and pain, LGBTQ people deal with both expected and unique challenges when facing the death of a romantic partner. Below, a handful of our community relate their own stories of being widowed in the hopes of helping others better navigate one of the most difficult parts of our lives.
Haruka Yukioka didn’t see faer truth reflected in faer childhood in Fond du Lac, but a trip to GSAFE’s leadership camp motivated faer to build a more inclusive community at home.
When a wedding invitation arrives in his mailbox, Patrick Farabaugh is left pondering about homecomings and bridesmaids
2016 GSAFE Youth Scholarship winner Keiana James talks about what motivated her to join her school’s GSA and work toward creating a safer environment for all students..
Amy DeGraff-Castro found ways to reconcile and embrace all the diverse parts of themselves through LGBTQ activism and outreach.
GSAFE’s Ali Muldrow pays it forward as an educator to incarcerated youth.
Wisconsin Alumni Association President Paula Bonner reflects on important family ties, barriers broken, gracious mentors, and a life’s work to help create equality and innovation in evolving academic and alumni relations environments.
Intimate Partner Violence is an often ignored but, still serious issue, within the LGBTQ community in particular. Kathy Flores of Diverse & Resilient interviews a survivor who is part of efforts to educate, support, and create better resources for those impacted by IPV.
Our Lives turns 10 years old this July, and this issue marks the start of our year-long retrospective. We take a look back at some of the people, stories, and changes that have marked the past decade of the LGBTQ community here in Madison, the state, and beyond.
Joey Jadryev looks back on coming to terms with his sexuality, and how dance and drag both helped him fully embrace his whole identity—and what he would tell his high school self now.
Rodney Lucas, aka F. Stokes, talks about his new documentary Ain’t No Babies in the City and why he felt compelled to tell the story of his sister and her partner’s decision to start a family in the face of massive societal prejudice.
Nayeli Portillo reflects on living at multiple identity intersections and learning to navigate different spaces without burying her truth.
Dr. Kathy Oriel strikes out on her own in order to provide quality and compassionate medical care, particularly for those too often left out of the system.