Each year the Madison Gay Hockey Association invites its members to write about the role that the MGHA plays in building their identity. 2007 scholarship winner Mark Sadowski shares his essay.
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Madison Gay Hockey Association Founder and Our Lives Publisher Patrick Farabaugh shares his personal story and experience behind the birth of the MGHA
What started as a job turned into something bigger as WKOW 27 news anchor Mitch Weber tells Our Lives why he decided to make the Wisconsin AIDS ride a part of who he is.
Volunteering for ACT 5 herself, Barbara McKinney discovers the commitment and courage that her late son Mike always described as “a life changing experience”
With the first anniversary of Women Who Want to Dance approaching, organizer Susana Torres talks to Our Lives about coming here from Mexico, beginning to laugh, and Women Across Wisconsin
Meet Liz Tymus, the mind behind Madison’s iQ
Richard Kilmer and Tim Spires show how respect, care, and commitment can create a relationship rich with love and quality time spent together
UW-Madison associate professor of Gender and Women’s Studies, A. Finn Enke examines the roles that gender expression have layered into our society and how they affect our own gendered identities
With gender identity/expression dropped from ENDA, Tamara Packard helps find the resources that are available to transgendered and gender variant people.
Recounting the many different ways we come out over the years, Stephen Calvert looks back on his most important two.
Getting a later start on building your own life creates some unique challenges. Dale Decker offers a few ways to handle a delayed adolescence
Each year the Madison Gay Hockey Association invites its members to write about the role that the MGHA plays in building their identity. 2011 scholarship winner Jeff Godsey shares his essay.
Christopher Wilford kicks off a new entertainment column by mapping out his own path to an entertainer’s persona.
Tim Lom found in fellow Madison Minotaurs and other gay rugby teams an extended family. But first, he had to know what he was looking for.
Glimpse the inner spirit of GSAFE 2012 Educator of the Year Abra Bankendorf Vigna to understand how she helps LGBTQ teens find their balance and embrace their strengths as group facilitator of Teens Like Us.
The Mad City Sisters just can’t get enough of the stares and questions. It’s all about getting the conversation started.
Robert Mahr reflects on what it took to bring back a beloved community spot, the Shamrock Bar & Grille, and the outpouring of support that made it happen.
Gay men’s choruses across the country, including Perfect Harmony Men’s Chorus in Madison, have provided places of comfort and revitalization for Arthur Durkee.
FruitFest Festival organizers Corey Gresen, Rico Sabatini, and Liz Tymus talk about Madison’s newest queer Pride celebration.
Diane Schwartz talks about her work with the Madison LGBT Outdoor Group & Madison Area Women’s Outdoor Network.
Madison Gay Volleyball’s Rob Littell credits the league with helping him come into his own.
Madison Blaze Women’s Football Team members Rebecca Havens and Jessica Lundgren talk about their love of the game—and the team.
Tamar Zick encourages us to keep our friendships healthy and strong, offering three qualities to strive for to help maintain these relationships.
Kurtis Hopp found a tight-knit community and a way to give back in Madison’s volleyball scene.
John Quinlan talks with OutReach Executive Director Steve Starkey about Outreach’s plans to host the Pride Parade.
Alexander Einsman explores whether digital gaydar really brings us together…or keeps us apart?
In a profile of Milwaukee’s rollickingly queer food and entertainment joint, Hamburger Mary’s brings the fun with the feast.
The culture and community of roller derby helped Alex Hanna get comfortable with their non-binary gender identity and kick butt on skates.
The essays that players from the Madison Gay Hockey Association write each year show the unique significance of the support they receive by playing in an LGBTQ sports league.
As the Mendota Rowing Club approaches its 40th anniversary in Madison, rowers reflect on their time on the water and what the sport means to them.
The Indian Mound Middle School GSA provides a safe space for students to provide support for each other and explore their own personalities.
Meet LezTalk listowner Patti Thompson and moderators Daña Alder and Donna Wess. The trio have created a thriving online community for area lesbians.
When a wedding invitation arrives in his mailbox, Patrick Farabaugh is left pondering about homecomings and bridesmaids
The road to self-acceptance is full of speed bumps and landmarks along the way. Dale Decker helps you steer clear of wrong turns.
It’s no surprise that minorities have increased problems with depression, addictions and compulsive behavior. Gay people are no exception.
Tim Foster treats himself to some little treasures from businesses in our community.
Meet Emily Harris, the 25 year-old owner of the Wylymar farms in Argyle
Setting a course for advocacy has lead John Quinlan from Outreach to providing a progressive voice for our community on the radio with “Forward Forum.”
When searching for balance and serenity, Jill Nebeker finds it along the urban shores of Lake Monona where Williamson Street meets downtown.
One of our most consistent and visible allies, the Reverend Curt Anderson openly affirms all people at First Congregational United Church of Christ
David Valdes Greenwood goes inside a same-sex marriage to candidly show the ups and downs of domestic bliss.
Twenty minutes northwest of Madison, nature, art and history combine to motivate Jody Kapp to be a pioneer—not a settler.
As it turns out, Wisconsin Cuisine is not actually an oxymoron.
Meet Terry Halverson vacation planner, social mixer
Two Madison West High School seniors, Isabel Medina and Miles Walser, are attempting to push the boundaries for queer youth with a Wisconsin first: The Young Queer Sports Club.
After an Ashland student was harrassed and beaten by his classmates, he took his school to task. Tamara Packard takes a look at a legal precedent
Recent Milwaukee transplant Robert Leschke finds his home in our cultural core.
Hookah dips Madison cuisine into the Mediterranean
Her attention to detail has made realtor Liz Lauer one of the best in Dane County
Searching for LGBTQA women and men to model herself after, UW–Madison senior Amanda Hunter finds the importance of visible role models.
Learning how to understand and love your body image is often challenging. Dale Decker offers solutions that promote better acceptance.
The Mariner’s Inn is defining destination dining in Madison
Meet Justin Hager, the UW–Madison senior who’s combining faith and activism.
Associated Bank residential loan officer Mike Fumelle uses his profession as his form of activism
Saying goodbye to Felicia Melton-Smyth
Meet Alexis M. Rouge, performer extraordinaire and co-founder of Lexi Ravyn Productions
After years in California, moving to Wisconsin left Mike Meholic in culture shock and unable to identify gay life in the Midwest. Then, his search led to a revelation.
Holding service to high standards, Bad Dog Frida adds color to canine care.
Thrown into a sobering reality, in his own words Dustin Smith tells what it was like when he learned he tested positive.
Preserving the great diner tradition while offering a variety of healthier options, Monty’s Blue Plate Diner knows how to liven up the classics.
Meet Theresa Abel, activist and owner of the Artisan Gallery and Creamery Cafe in Paoli
What happens when the Artistic Director of Madison’s queer theater troupe talks with Rod, Avenue Q’s investment banker?
When You Are Engulfed in Flames by David Sedaris
Crafting quite possibly the most distinctive collection of gay poetry has been a lifetime’s work for Michael Bemis. In his own words, he explains the value in gifting it to the University of Wisconsin’s Special Collections Library.
In her own words, StageQ Artistic Director Tara Ayres describes how her search for culture and social change lead her across America and to a Madison theater community whose mission shines a spotlight on our queer experiences.
Learn about some of the area’s local talent!
In the 1890s, the UW–Madison Haresfoot Club brought gender-bending into vogue.
For Daun Johnston, the road less traveled leads through Madison and ultimately to her own personal truth.
For Tammy Champion, hockey is more than a sport. It is a way of life.
Proselytizing from a queer perspective, academic Michael Sweet, ponders the draw to Buddhist principals that LGBT people feel when searching for serenity and a spiritual path.
As the reality of creating our own families increases, so do the paths we take to get there. The Law Center for Children and Families reports on a variety of options and success stories.
Wisconsin Rainbow Families’ Vance Skinner and Brendan Barrett outline the evolution of their identities and what lead to their desire to have children.
With winter returning and hours of sunlight on the decline, Dale Decker offers some advice on how to cope through seasonal depression.
Katie Jayce found a home and fulfilled a dream by joining the rough and tumble world of women’s tackle football.
Executive Director Brian Wild reflects on the past, present, and future of Proud Theater.
Meet Rae Kyritsi, the lass putting the sass into her Mad Rollin’ Dolls alter ego, Sassafrass.
Meet Queer Shorts’ brainchild, Katy Conley.
Homecoming by Nell Stark
The recipe to chocolatier Gail Ambrosius’ success, Jill Nebeker finds, comes from caring as much for her team as she does her customers and chocolates.
Past Fair Wisconsin Board President Dan Ross charts the path that he and his partner Charlie Squires took from meeting at a graduate school party into a shared life of activism.
After describing himself as “the unhappiest kid in the world,” Michael Adams falls in love and publishes it in the newsletter of Black and White Men Together.
Trying to describe a seemingly intangible feeling, local author Darwin Ward turns to lyrics to help reveal the language of love.
Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? Jimmy Owen sifts through some potenital barriers that might be holding back your happiness.
Diverse and Resilient partners with OutReach on “Room to Breathe,” a solution to help us stop smoking. Amber Ault reports.
While demystifying the legal aftermath of California’s Proposition 8 vote, Tamara Packard offers a perspective on our progress.
Home to the Slow Food Movement, Harvest reconnects you to the love of the dining experience, with a passion for local sustainability.
After surviving the Vietnam War and HIV, J. Patrick thrives in Madison’s theater community.
After already establishing a career in footwear, Bernie Fatla found a niche when an idea lead him to create Le Dame Footwear.
Local community members share their favorite small town getaways.
In his own words, David Waugh talks about how he has come full circle from being raised on a farm to coming out and owning his own.
John Quinlan talks with author Will Fellows about the timeless relevance that helped inspire Brokeback Mountain—the collection of narratives in Fellows’ Farm Boys.
Motivation and realistic goals are only the start of your fitness obstacle course. Amber Ault reports on ways to achieve better results.
With winter soon a memory and spring in bloom, the Betty Lou Cruises can again offer the best way to dine and experience the Madison skyline.
Meet Corey Gresen and Rico Sabatini the dynamic duo behind Plan B, the new Williamson Street nightspot.
Four Seasons Theatre’s Founder and Artistic Director*
Dr. Sue Gill explores the ways in which some queer-identified people end up ostracized or unseen even within the LGBTQ community.
When his love for music mixed with a passion for performing, Christopher Lange developed PianoFondue—a comedy cabaret that puts humor and musical diversity on the center stage.
Festival producer Jane Weldon chronicles how Madison became the home to this 35-year mission.
Emily Mills surveys the diverse family of musicians that call Madison home.
Can you see your glass ceiling? Jimmy Owen looks at the facts about what “little white lies” can do to our physical and emotional health.
How did our neighboring state 90 minutes west achieve marriage equality? Tamara Packard reviews their Supreme Court’s unanimous opinion.
Amber Ault goes out for a jog with the Madison Front Runners/Front Walkers and finds support for athletes at any level.
Bonnie Raimy’s tips to purchasing the perfect summer shorts.
Meet Ali Dwyer. Through We Are All Mechanics, she is empowering women, one bike rider at a time.
GSAFE Educator of the Year Scott Lone of West Bend East High School approaches his role with dedication and courage.
Wisconsin AIDS Ride Coordinator Angela DuPont reflects upon her involvement with the ACT Rides and what she’ll take with her as she says goodbye.
The past 50 years in a civil rights movement through the eyes and perspective of a Madison native by Brian Powers.
Richard Melnick creates the first podcast architectural tour in Wisconsin showcasing a town’s living history.
Personal Shopper Bonnie Raimy on dressing DJ
Lombardino’s Italian Restaurant & Bar stays up with the times in its kitchen and its causes.
Meet Katie Belanger. As Fair Wisconsin’s new Executive Director, she’s using her experience and resolve to fight the good fight.
Jane Boyd, Outreach’s 2009 Susan Green Woman of the Year, receives due honors her role in forming and maintaining Lizards, a social group for “older” lesbians.
Crisis by Mitchell Gold and Mindy Drucker
And sometimes, love also makes the man. Tyler Driscoll, Michele Burton-Driscoll, and their son, Johnny, show us how.
What a fun way to promote this awesome show, walking around the Capitol Square during a Farmers’ Market in full drag. And that’s exactly what we did—coffee in one hand, show fliers in the other.
Tara Ayres explores the world of contact improv, where participants combine improvisational movement and response with dance, music and physical connection.
The Nau-Ti-Gal serves up casual, waterfront dining with an emphasis on fun.
Meet Ellen Berz. As AIDS Network Board President, she shares her pride in the Network’s ability to address the ever-changing needs of clients, including the reopened food pantry.
Michael Bruno shares his theatrical journey with Tara Ayres.
Some local companies have established employee resource groups or employee networks that provide a format for supporting LGBT workers and their allies.
J. James Tye III shares the opening sequence of the Out Professional and Executive Network.
Fromagination offers an intimidating selection of artisan cheeses in an environment that is anything but.
Meet McGee Steffes of the Wisconsin Wolves Women’s Football team. She and her teammates learn lessons on the field that apply off of it as well.
Amber Ault has an unconventional suggestion for a gift for that special someone this Valentine’s Day.
The Bartell Theater—home to six theater companies—is a haven of collaboration and cooperation.
Local community members reflect on their favorite Madison destinations from grocery stores to lakeshores, from neighborhoods to nightclubs.
Marty Fox tallies the progress of incorporating LGBT sensitivity and supportive policies in Madison workplaces.
Meet Barb Carey, creator of Wisconsin Women Fish—a popular source of education, events, and networking for female anglers from our state and beyond.
Sarah Newport is an extraordinary, ordinary person who has taken risks to have a creative life and be part of Madison community theater.
How the LGBT Books to Prisoners project is bringing a bit more hope and community to those serving time.
Madison boasts a world-class curling scene, and Lori Karst is proud to be part of the community that fulfills and challenges her every day.
Sociologist Jaclyn Wypler explores the growing community of lesbian farmers and finds a desire for better connections and visibility.
Hallie Lieberman explores and explains the past, present, and future of Madison’s diverse and somewhat unique poly community.
Rollers co-organizer Liz Dannenbaum shares the group’s history and why having a gathering place for older lesbians is so crucial—and fun.
Madison Gay Hockey Association’s annual essay contest winner Logan Kirwin talks about transition, acceptance, and the queer athletic community.
We talk to co-organizer Ja’Mel Ware of Intellectual Ratchet about the group’s origins and goals to provide a social and networking group to support Madison’s increasingly diverse population of movers and shakers.
Our Lives turns 10 years old this July, and this issue marks the start of our year-long retrospective. We take a look back at some of the people, stories, and changes that have marked the past decade of the LGBTQ community here in Madison, the state, and beyond.
Madison’s first queer tango community aims to bring a timeless tradition to new heights and a more supportive space.
Kevin Colelli used Madison Gay Hockey Association’s annual essay to talk about falling in love with a sport that didn’t seem to love him back, and how the MGHA helped him bring his whole self to the table.
Kathy Flores gives an update on the murder trial of Andrew Nesbitt and offers insight and tips for how we can work to prevent such tragedies, and why hookup-related violence in the LGBTQ community is both an issue of intimate partner violence and sexual assault.
GSAFE’s Ali Muldrow tackles the question of how to know who your friends are in the era of Donald Trump, and how to be a better friend in return.
Michal Osier surveys some of the area social groups aimed specifically at LGBTQ elders and providing needed alternatives to isolation.
Madison Gay Hockey player Tim Tender shares his experience learning to expand his worldview—and his own sense of self—through his time in the league.
Mineral Point is one of Wisconsin’s hidden gems, boasting art galleries, historic buildings, and as of 2017, its own LGBTQ Pride celebration. Get to know some of the people and places that have turned this former lead mining town into a must-visit destination in the Driftless Area.
Stand-up comic Dina Martinez found acceptance and inclusion among the women of Madison’s comedy scene. Now she’s giving back with the Lady Laughs Comedy Festival, returning for its third run this fall.
Dr. Sami Schalk kicks off a new series of columns that aim to address some of the pressing and oftentimes thornier questions about the intersection of race and queerness in America.
Gary Tipler and Scott Seyforth chronicle the life and historical legacy left by David Runyon, tireless recorder and advocate of the LGBTQ community.
An incident at a drag show at Plan B has sparked a deluge of long-held criticisms of the club and its new co-owners, leading to serious questions about the future of one of Madison’s LGBTQ venues
As Plan B becomes Prism Dance Club, new management looks beyond a simple re-branding of the east side night spot and toward a more inclusive and diverse mission statement.
We checked in with OutReach and the Community Pride Coalition for an update on what’s happened since the controversy this summer over police and Pride.
Controversy, logistical hurdles, strained resources, and miscommunication all combined to spell the end of OutReach’s Pride Parade in 2019.
Katie Miller‘s new The Good Table shared meal series aims to provide a place for LGBTQ+ people of all ages to gather together and make connections over good food.
What are microaggressions, anyway, and why are they harmful especially to people with intersecting minority identities? Guest writer Sarah Stouffer-Lerch offers insight and tips.