Each year since we introduced our collaborative list with Fair Wisconsin, our number of out and allied couples grows stronger! This year over 550 Wisconsin couples answered the call of Our Lives and Fair Wisconsin to stand up for love and fairness. Together we are sending a message—to our community,…
Interest group: Love
Volunteering for ACT 5 herself, Barbara McKinney discovers the commitment and courage that her late son Mike always described as “a life changing experience”
Richard Kilmer and Tim Spires show how respect, care, and commitment can create a relationship rich with love and quality time spent together
Answering the call for the Reverend Eldonna Hazen first meant reconciling her sexuality with her faith. In her own words, First Congregational United Church of Christ’s Associate Minister talks about why she’s returned to the church.
Brenda Farabaugh opens up about how she first reacted when her son Patrick came out to her, and where she is at with it now.
Restaurant owner Robert von Rutenberg looks back on his return to Madison and the family business.
Danielle Dresden and Donna Peckett celebrate 25 years of TAPIT/newworks.
Wondering “why bother” to have a gay wedding where it isn’t legal? Jay Edgar and Joshua Feyen chose to despite the fact, and were blown away by how significant it was—for them and everyone else.
Dr. Sue Gill challenges you to develop an inner template for what “family” can mean to you.
Healer/Communicator Asia Voight on how tragedy put her back in touch with her intuition and the healing power of love.
Our collaborative list with Fair Wisconsin.
In June of last year, the United Methodist Church publicly put the Rev. Amy DeLong on trial after she married two women. With it now behind her, DeLong narrates her experience reconciling her two loves.
Denise Matyka and Margaret McMurray found their dream come true in the form of a little girl named Maria.
For PFLAG’s Karen Baker, OutReach Community Center’s 2012 Ally of the Year, the answer was easy.
Nan Mortensen, co-owner of Dutch’s Auto Service, reflects back over a lifetime of building a livelihood and how she and her partner and co-owner, Crystal Rossman, are living their dreams.
Owl artist Clarence P. Cameron owes his success to the love and support of his partner, Bob Lockhart, with whom he has spent half a century.
Cathy Noth found strength and direction through athletics, faith, and family.
Laura Webster details the vision and journey that led her and partner Jill Munich to build their dream home in Madison.
A winding road of ups, downs, and big changes has bonded Will Van Roosenbeek and Tara DeLong ever closer together.
Diverse & Resilient’s Acceptance Journeys program uses families’ stories to lay the groundwork for changing hearts and minds about LGBT lives.
Our third collaborative list with Fair Wisconsin.
Danez Smith shares a taste of what Self Love can be.
Self-proclaimed “custard guy” Michael Dix of Michael’s Frozen Custard opens up about his often tumultuous journey toward self-love and sweet rewards.
Alexander Einsman explores whether digital gaydar really brings us together…or keeps us apart?
Attorney Michele L. Perreault explains Judge Crabb’s historic ruling declaring Wisconsin’s marriage equality ban unconstitutional.
Meet the eight plaintiff couples in the ACLUís lawsuit to bring marriage equality to Wisconsin
Connie North explores the work of author and teacher Helen Boyd and what it means to love a trans* person.
After talking with the Madison chapter President Kay Heggestad, the value of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays becomes as real as the love a mother has for her son
When a wedding invitation arrives in his mailbox, Patrick Farabaugh is left pondering about homecomings and bridesmaids
Returning home helps Bjørn Holtan discover that Midwestern values have grown to include our family values at one of Madison’s most endeared traditions.
UW Allies Program co-president Amanda Hunter opens up about the friend that helped her find the courage to step out and stand up for herself.
One of our most consistent and visible allies, the Reverend Curt Anderson openly affirms all people at First Congregational United Church of Christ
David Valdes Greenwood goes inside a same-sex marriage to candidly show the ups and downs of domestic bliss.
Emma Donoghue delivers a story exploring how distance and difficulty don’t have to overwhelm a relationship
A long sought-after mural project comes to Madison and the wall of Plan B just in time for marriage equality to make headway in the state
Saying goodbye to Felicia Melton-Smyth
For Daun Johnston, the road less traveled leads through Madison and ultimately to her own personal truth.
Wisconsin Rainbow Families’ Vance Skinner and Brendan Barrett outline the evolution of their identities and what lead to their desire to have children.
Recovering from heartbreak, Rob Vogel looks at how he moved beyond it and what it took to open himself up again.
After surviving years of declining health and a double transplant, OutReach’s Development Director Nikki Baumblatt looks back at the woman who cared for her, loved her, and stayed next to her through it as she tries to say: I Love You.
Past Fair Wisconsin Board President Dan Ross charts the path that he and his partner Charlie Squires took from meeting at a graduate school party into a shared life of activism.
Trying to describe a seemingly intangible feeling, local author Darwin Ward turns to lyrics to help reveal the language of love.
Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? Jimmy Owen sifts through some potenital barriers that might be holding back your happiness.
While demystifying the legal aftermath of California’s Proposition 8 vote, Tamara Packard offers a perspective on our progress.
Embracing her sexual identity later in life, an Anonymous Reader shares the discovery that helped her feel love.
John Quinlan talks with author Will Fellows about the timeless relevance that helped inspire Brokeback Mountain—the collection of narratives in Fellows’ Farm Boys.
GSAFE Educator of the Year Scott Lone of West Bend East High School approaches his role with dedication and courage.
We stayed in hotels bonding with a child who we may or may not parent. We were glorified babysitters during this period, yet we already fell in love with him.
A soldier and her wife reflect on their loneliness and honor in the oppressive world of military discrimination.
Our Lives Publisher Patrick Farabaugh recounts his first.
Linda Lenzke ‘s poetic prose chronicles love’s past and future.
Amber Ault has an unconventional suggestion for a gift for that special someone this Valentine’s Day.
Jimmy Owen reflects on the coming out, coming together journey that he and his parents have traveled.
Attorney Christopher Krimmer lays out the legal ups and downs of legalized same-sex marriage and makes a case for why it is—and sometimes is not—right for a couple.
Hallie Lieberman explores and explains the past, present, and future of Madison’s diverse and somewhat unique poly community.
Proper estate planning may not be the most fun part of relationships, but attorney Michele Perreault points out how crucial it is for LGBTQ people in particular.
Alex Einsman explains why past relationship traumas shouldn’t define our sense of self or what’s possible in the future, but that we can and should learn from them.
Jeanne Benink explores the ways we develop a taste for different kinds of love.
UW Press Executive Editor Raphael Kadushin reflects on a life of good fortune and world travel, from his first generation immigrant roots in New York to finding the love of his life and “settling” in Madison—and the work yet to be done.
Cargo Coffee owner Lynn Lee details the ups and downs and lessons learned from working in the service industry, from San Francisco in the early ‘90s toMadison in the now, and becoming a role model for his young LGBTQ employees along the way.
Our Lives turns 10 years old this July, and this issue marks the start of our year-long retrospective. We take a look back at some of the people, stories, and changes that have marked the past decade of the LGBTQ community here in Madison, the state, and beyond.
Personal chef Jeanne Benink celebrates love of friends and family through our unifying memories of good food shared.
Rodney Lucas, aka F. Stokes, talks about his new documentary Ain’t No Babies in the City and why he felt compelled to tell the story of his sister and her partner’s decision to start a family in the face of massive societal prejudice.
Marcelle Richards explores and explains the emerging healing practice of erotic embodiment, also called bodywork, and access to pleasure for all people beyond physical or mental barriers.
Ehren Hasz took a leap of faith when she came out as transgender to her partner, Becky Peterson. Through diving, dogs, and love, they’ve navigated the bumpy waters into smoother sailing.
There is power in solidarity between survivors, regardless of gender, orientation, or race. We must not let the movement become exclusive.
Wisconsin’s LGBTQ newlyweds share their wedding experience and advice.
OutReach’s Michal Osier looks into ways traditional grief support groups for bereaved spouses may fall far short of serving LGBTQ widows and widowers by examining our unique challenges and needs.
Lavender Knight and Tanya Mudrick’s love for one another is a bond that has survived and deepened despite everything they have been through.