After years spent searching for somewhere to belong, Eri Madder discovers how that quest—and owning an authentic life—leads back to a realization about self-acceptance
Interest group: Gender
With gender identity/expression dropped from ENDA, Tamara Packard helps find the resources that are available to transgendered and gender variant people.
Saying goodbye to Felicia Melton-Smyth
Zachariah Strong comes out about identity, being himself, and the strength it takes to resist labels.
In the 1890s, the UW–Madison Haresfoot Club brought gender-bending into vogue.
Diverse and Resilient partners with OutReach on “Room to Breathe,” a solution to help us stop smoking. Amber Ault reports.
Embracing her sexual identity later in life, an Anonymous Reader shares the discovery that helped her feel love.
Dr. Sue Gill explores the ways in which some queer-identified people end up ostracized or unseen even within the LGBTQ community.
Festival producer Jane Weldon chronicles how Madison became the home to this 35-year mission.
Meet Ali Dwyer. Through We Are All Mechanics, she is empowering women, one bike rider at a time.
Dawn Siebert and Ben Monty share how Madison came to host the 2009 ASANA Softball World Series.
And sometimes, love also makes the man. Tyler Driscoll, Michele Burton-Driscoll, and their son, Johnny, show us how.
What gender role do you take on in your relationship? Your workplace? Dr. Sue Gill suggests we examine if our internal gender matches our external gender expression.
Freedom Inc.’s M. Adams makes the case for intersectionality and why Black rights and queer rights are inextricably bound together.
This month Plan B cast member Trixie Mattel becomes the first drag queen from Wisconsin to compete on RuPaul’s Drag Race. Out of drag, Brian Firkus shares the inspiration for his alter ego.
A fierce advocate for her rights and those of the people who come after, Ret. Col. Sheri A. Swokowski tells the story of how she came from conservative Wisconsin roots to become one of the highest ranking out transgender officers in the world.
After the nightmare of losing her child to suicide, Skylar Lee’s mother Joanne Lee is dedicating herself to continuing the work that her son began on behalf of the LGBTQ community that she struggled for so long to understand.
An open letter from the Wisconsin Trans Health Coalition on the necessity of community efforts to eradicate state violence against transgender people.
Alex Hanna explains how access to the various pieces of necessary health care can be extremely limited or nonexistent for many transgender people seeking transition care.
Haruka Yukioka didn’t see faer truth reflected in faer childhood in Fond du Lac, but a trip to GSAFE’s leadership camp motivated faer to build a more inclusive community at home.
Michail Takach spoke with the notorious filmmaker and culture jammer about everything from the election to the state of gay bars in advance of his show, “A John Waters Christmas,” December 16 at the Barrymore Theater in Madison
Madison Gay Hockey Association’s annual essay contest winner Logan Kirwin talks about transition, acceptance, and the queer athletic community.
Dr. Shannon Andrews tells her own story of self-discovery and how it helped lead her to fighting to ensure that transgender people have equitable access to the care they need.
Karin Wolf explores the artwork of Bernadette Witzack, whose multimedia works explore what it means to be female bodied, and just plain embodied, in a world that seeks to impose meaning on us.
Jordan Bingham is the Health and Racial Equity Coordinator for Public Health Madison and Dane County, and is one of seven primary people who worked to build the new LGBTQ+ Health Profile to be used to highlight both progress and challenges that remain in bringing comprehensive care to LGBTQ people in the area.
Breaking the boundaries of drag performance, Jake Posateri, aka Baby Bear, has carved out a cutting edge, charmingly bedraggled niche for himself in Madison’s
queer performance scene.
Our Lives turns 10 years old this July, and this issue marks the start of our year-long retrospective. We take a look back at some of the people, stories, and changes that have marked the past decade of the LGBTQ community here in Madison, the state, and beyond.
The first-ever Wisconsin Male Burlesque Festival teased and titillated, all while lifting up the women who pioneered the art form, and queering and challenging standard definitions of masculinity.
A trip to their birthplace in Hawaii helped Marcelle Richards find a more whole self, and to at last feel at home in their surroundings
Alaura Seidl reflects on using art as a means to seek answers—or better yet, start new conversations—around everything from gender to sexuality to chronic pain and memory.
A candid glimpse into the life of Our Lives magazine reader Steph Tai.
Marcelle Richards explores and explains the emerging healing practice of erotic embodiment, also called bodywork, and access to pleasure for all people beyond physical or mental barriers.
Madison Gay Hockey Association’s annual essay gave Ashleigh Baldwin a chance to reflect on rediscovering her life’s passion and finding a place to call home in the league
Dr. Kathy Oriel strikes out on her own in order to provide quality and compassionate medical care, particularly for those too often left out of the system.
Kaci Sullivan gives us a vulernable, beautiful update on his journey into trans parenthood and the birth of baby Pheonix (a continuation of an article that appeared in our November 2017 issue).
James Van Abel found support and direction through Briarpatch’s Teens Like Us group, and now has the chance to give back to the next generation.
Kaci Sullivan speaks to being transmasculine and pregnant in a society still steeped in binary expectations and understandings of childbirth.